Yes! This is the year that Mother’s Day and Mental Health month are running at the same time. Coincidence? I can hear several jokes coming. I have heard that hospitals experience a high volume of emergencies and mental health related problems on Mother’s Day.
How can you have an hmd (Happy Mother’s Day)? Here are a few ways to make your day special. Begin with the end in mind—how do you want to feel that day? Well, moms . . . I want to encourage you to allow yourself to receive on Mother’s Day. It is good to teach your children to give and not just take from you. Also, please speak to your husbands ahead of time about what you are hoping for on “the day”. In other words: are you hoping to relax, to take a bike ride, to eat out, to nap, to read a book, or just sit around and play in the yard? It is good to ask yourself what kind of day you would like and then spell it out for your family. Now, we all know you will likely NOT get everything you wish for. But a card, a treat and an activity of some kind is not too much to ask for. Homemade cards are awesome.
If you are going to Grandma’s house, you may want to encourage your kids to make her a card or do something special for her. No cost fun is always the best. So get out some balloons and blow them up, or fill them with water and have a balloon toss outside while she watches (just don’t throw one at her! Whoops!). Make sure you decide before you leave how long you will be staying at Grandma’s. Maybe it’s a two hour visit and then you go home so that you yourself have a bit of the day to be celebrated. Make sure before you go, you clarify this with your husband and kids!
So along with the above examples, check out these important mental health tips for moms:
1. Clarify expectations with your family (and husband)
2. Give yourself permission to receive (and not just wait on everyone else)
3. Ask for what you want (yes you have an opinion and a vote)
4. Be realistic (about your list of expectations)
5. Honor the Grandmas
6. Set boundaries around how long you are going to stay
7. Have fun! When Mama’s happy, everyone is happy!
“He loves each one of us as if there were only one of us.” St. Augustine